When Does It Count as Fucking?

For male/female sex, I think it’s pretty clear when it’s fucking. Dick in pussy = sex. I have never counted oral sex as sex, because I never would have considered giving a blowjob or getting eaten out “losing my virginity.” Besides, with oral sex receivers aren’t necessarily happy to be givers.

For girl-girl sex, when does is it count as sex sex? Can it ever be? I think so, because lifelong lesbians who have never been with a guy ain’t no goddamn virgins.

Is it fair for me to count Pretty Twosome on my list of people I’ve fucked? Do I have to wait until I’ve done her with a double-dildo or a strap-on for it to count? Because that doesn’t seem fair either. Plenty of lesbians have sex without special attachments, and I have no doubt they count what they do as fucking. And I don’t mean fisting. At least –shudder– I hope that isn’t the benchmark. Owwie.

So what is it that marks sex between two people of the same gender as fucking? Is it the same sort of situation with orgasms, ie “you KNOW if you’ve had one”? Because I think Pretty Twosome and I fucked each other six ways from Sunday, yet I can’t put my finger on what made it sex (well, yes I can. in fact I put multiple fingers there). Was it the eyes? The eyes often speak louder than your tongue/hands/body do, so oftentimes it’s the eyes that get me off more than anything else. Or is is something else?

Hmm. Results are inconclusive. The situation requires further research. Bah chi chi wah WAAH.